September greets us not only with cooler mornings but also a new chapter in the lives of many families. For children, especially those entering school for the first time, it's often a time full of emotions: curiosity, uncertainty, but also fear. How can we ensure that these first weeks are not associated with stress, but with a good start? Let's hear some stories and tried-and-true tips.
START BY LISTENING WITHOUT RUSHING OR JUDGING
Imagine little Adaś, who at night, just before bed, says, "Mom, what if you don't like me?" Or Zosia, walking into class alone for the first time and already bursting into tears at the door. These are real experiences that have enormous significance for a child.
Children, even those just a few years old, are acutely aware of changes. For some, entering the world of school is a journey into the unknown, especially if they haven't attended preschool before. Anxiety can manifest itself through crying, sleep problems, or difficulty concentrating. The most important thing we can do is listen. Instead of saying, "Don't overreact," it's better to say, "I understand you might be afraid. I used to be afraid of school, too."
A conversation in which we truly listen is a safe haven for a child. And it is often this very conversation that helps a child gain the courage to face new challenges.
YOUR EMOTIONS ARE A SIGNPOINT FOR YOUR CHILD
Do you remember your first day of school? Maybe your backpack was too heavy, or the desk smelled strange? Childhood memories can be a powerful bridge between adults and children.
If, as a parent, you feel stressed, unsure, or simply don't know how to talk to your child about school, that's completely natural. But remember, your attitude resonates with your child faster than you think. When you speak positively about school, share your own childhood memories, and show that you were once afraid but persevered, your child will feel less alone.
It's important not to let older siblings or other adults intimidate you with school. It's better to foster an atmosphere of curiosity and encouragement. Say, "You'll learn so many things at school. It's like discovering the world, step by step."
INSTEAD OF PRESSURE, SUPPORT AND EASE
You don't have to be a super parent. Just give your child the space to be themselves. Not everyone has to love school right away, and not every first day will be perfect.
Psychologist Marika Auksztulewicz emphasizes that it's not worth putting pressure on children or creating an atmosphere in which everything has to change at once. It's better to treat the beginning of the year as a natural stage, not a turning point in their entire childhood.
It's not a problem if a child doesn't always smile, is sometimes quiet, or observes from the sidelines. It's part of the adaptation process. It's good if, as parents, we learn to be supportive rather than merely assessing the results.
LEARNING THROUGH PLAY? AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE
A seven-year-old is not a miniature version of an adult. Children this age need exercise, play, and rest. They won't focus on one task for an hour, nor should they.
Instead of fighting for every letter in a notebook, it's better to combine learning with fun. Write letters to your favorite cartoon character, count LEGO bricks, or create a home math lab. Short breaks, some exercise, and a positive atmosphere can accomplish more than ten worksheets.
Remember, school isn't a race. Not every child has to be the class champion. Parental expectations should be balanced with the child's abilities. Do you really need horseback riding lessons, two languages, and swimming after school? Maybe a little freedom and evening time just for you will be enough.
SENSITIVITY AND VIGILANCE ARE THE BEST THAT YOU CAN GIVE
Too much pressure, a lack of communication, fatigue—all of these can contribute to more serious emotional problems. But that doesn't mean you need a psychology degree to notice that something's wrong.
Pay attention to changes. Does your child suddenly become withdrawn, unwilling to talk, have trouble sleeping, or lose their appetite? Don't ignore the signs. And don't be afraid to reach out for help. Talking to a psychologist isn't a failure, but a sign of concern.
These are the signals, difficulties, and ways to support children and young people that the podcast series CO NA TO TWÓJ ELEKARZ (WHAT YOUR DOCTOR SAYS) with psychology specialist Marika Auksztulewicz explores. Scan the code and listen to all episodes of the series.